Kukwiya mofulumira kwambiri
Chinthu chimodzi chinali chomveka bwino pamene ndinali kukula, ndipo chimenecho chinali chakuti ndinakwiya mofulumira kwambiri.
Mkwiyo wanga sunakhalepo nthawi yaitali ndipo ndinkamva kupusa kwambiri pambuyo pake. Zinali ngati kuphulika kwakukulu. Kwakukulukulu kunali kokha pa mikhalidwe, osati pa anthu. Ndikukumbukira pamene ndinali kuntchito, kuwotcherera chinachake, ndipo ndinakwiya kwambiri, ndinatenga wowotcherera yense ndi kuiponya kudutsa chipindacho. Sindinapwetekepo anthu monga momwe ndikukumbukira, koma ndikanakwiya kwambiri.
Kwenikweni, ndinakhumudwa kwambiri chifukwa ndinkadziwa kuti sizinali bwino. Ndinakulira m'nyumba yabwino yachikristu ndipo ndinkadziwa za Mulungu. Ndinkafuna kumudziwa Iye payekha. Ndinadziwa kuti sibwino kukhala chonchi, koma sindinkadziwa kusintha.
Kenako ndinakwatira, ndipo ndinaona kuti zinthu zimenezi sizimangosintha. Ndinali wotsimikiza kuti sindidzapweteka mkazi wanga ndi mwana wanga, kapena anthu ena amene ndinakumana nawo, koma kodi mungathandize bwanji anthu pamene muli choncho? Ndinkafuna kukhala ndi ubwenzi wabwino ndi anthu, koma chifukwa cha mkwiyo wanga sindikanatha kutsimikizira kwenikweni.
Kudana ndi moyo wanu
Nditangokwatirana n'kukhala bambo, ndinamva uthenga wabwino ukufotokozedwa m'njira imene sindinamvepo. Mavesi ngati 1 Petulo 1:16 amene amati, "Khalani oyera, pakuti ndine woyera" ndithudi anali chinthu chimene Mulungu ananena, ndi chinachake chimene ndinawerenga, koma osati m'njira imene ndinaganiza kuti chidzatheka, chifukwa palibe amene ankadziwa kuchita zimenezo. Koma tsopano ndamva kuti "Chabwino, zalembedwa; chifukwa chake, ziyenera kukhala zotheka." Choncho, pamene ndinamva za kudana ndi moyo wanu (chikhalidwe chanu chadyera, chonyadira ndi chochimwa) ndikuchitaya, zomwe zinasintha zonse kwa ine. Ndikukumbukira ndikuganiza kuti, "Pomaliza, tsopano ndingathe kuchitapo kanthu pa zinthu zimenezi zimene zimandivutitsa!"
Yesu anati: "Amene amakonda moyo wake adzautaya, ndipo amene amadana ndi moyo wake m'dzikoli adzausunga kuti ukhale ndi moyo wosatha." Yohane 12:25. Vesi limenelo linagwiradi ntchito mwa ine. Iye samanena kuti, "Iye amene amadana ndi zimene enawo akuona," koma "Iye amene amadana ndi moyo wake." Ndi zomwe zili mkati mwanga - malingaliro onsewa, malingaliro, ndi zinthu zomwe zingayambitse mkangano pakati pa anthu, ndizo zomwe ndikuyenera kudana nazo. Chifukwa chakuti ntchakuzirwa chomene kukwiyisa lusungu. Ndinakula ndikuganiza kuti ndiyenera kuchita ndi kunja. Koma sindiyenera kungogwira ntchito ndi zomwe anthu akuwona, ndi kuphulika kwanga kwa mkwiyo. Zomwe zimatuluka mwa ine kwenikweni zimasonyeza zomwe ndakhala wotanganidwa nazo mkati.
Sizinachitike zonse kamodzi, koma pang'onopang'ono. Ndinayamba kudana kwambiri ndi mkwiyo! Ndinkadana nazo kale, koma tsopano ndinkadana nazo kwambiri. Chifukwa ndinkafuna kupeza mgwirizano ndi Yesu. Ngati ndikugwira lingaliro lomwe silikugwirizana ndi ufumu Wake, ndingakumane bwanji ndi Yesu akadzabweranso? Ngati Iye anali kubweranso pompano, ndiye chiyani? Kodi maganizo anga angagwirizane ndi ufumu Wake?
Kuyambira kudana ndi mkwiyo mpaka kudalitsidwa
Chinthu chachikulu ndicho kutenga Mawu a Mulungu monga momwe alembedwera. Vesi limene landithandiza kwambiri kwa zaka zambiri ndi 1 Petulo 3:9: "... pa dalitso losemphana." Ndinaganiza kuti: Ndiyenera kukhala wokhoza kudalitsa, kotero kuti ndizotsutsana (zosiyana) ndi zomwe ndimachita mwachibadwa. Mwachibadwa, ndimayambitsa mkangano, ndikutsutsa, ndikukankhira anthu. Koma m'malo mwake, ndikufunikira kutembenuzidwa ku mkwiyo umenewu ndi kukhala ndi moyo wosiyana kotheratu.
Vesi lina limene nthawi zambiri ndinkaganizira ndi Agalatiya 5:24: "Amene ali a Khristu Yesu akhomerera zilakolako ndi zokhumba za uchimo wawo pamtanda wake ndi kuwapachika kumeneko." "Zilakolako ndi zokhumba" ndi pang'ono mawu ambiri. Koma m'moyo wa tsiku ndi tsiku, zimenezo zikutanthauza kuti m'lingaliro lililonse lachindunji, mawu ndi zochita, momwe ndimachitira zinthu, kapena momwe ndimagwiritsira ntchito ndalama zanga, ndimanena kuti "kayi" ku zilakolako zauchimo mu chikhalidwe changa.
Nthawi iliyonse ndikakhala ndi maganizo pa nkhani ya chinachake kapena munthu amene sagwirizana ndi malamulo a Mulungu, ndiye kuti sindingathe kudalitsa. Sindingathe kuchita zabwino. Sindingathe kukwaniritsa zosowa. Chinthu chodabwitsa n'chakuti nthawi zonse ndimakonda anthu. Ndikuganiza kuti mwina ndi chifukwa chake zinali zovuta kwambiri, mkwiyo uwu. Sindinathe kulumikizana ndi anthu ndikuwamvetsetsa, chifukwa ndinali wodzaza ndi malingaliro anga, ndipo zimenezo zinandilekanitsa nawo.
Chikhalidwe chathu chaumunthu chochimwa, chomwe chimatchedwanso thupi, chili ndi zinthu zonsezi zosiyana zomwe ndimazigwira mosavuta, choncho ndikuthokoza kuti ndikutha kuona malingaliro ang'onoang'ono awa, kunena kuti 'kayi' kwa iwo ndikukhala omasuka kwambiri. Limanenanso pa Aheberi 12:11 kuti sizikumveka bwino kunena kuti 'kayi' ku chikhalidwe chanu chochimwa, koma kumbali ina, ndikudziwa kuti ndikusinthidwa nthawi zonse. Choncho zimenezo zimandipatsa chiyembekezo. Pang'ono ndi pang'ono, ndimatha kulumikizana ndi anthu ndi kukhala wabwino kwa iwo, zivute zitani. Ziribe kanthu kwambiri ngati anzanga ogwira nawo ntchito sakugwirizana nane, mwachitsanzo, chifukwa ndimawasamalira.
Werenganinso: Kodi ndimagwira bwanji lingaliro lililonse?
Kunena pepani
Poyamba, ndinkakwiyiranso anawo. Nthawi zambiri ndinkawamvera chisoni. Mwachitsanzo, ndinganene kuti, "Pepani chifukwa cha mmene ndanenera, koma muyenerabe kuchita zimene ndanena." Mwina zimene ndinanena sizinali zolakwika kwambiri, koma mmene ndinanenera zinali zolakwika kotheratu.
Pambuyo pake, pamene mwana wanga woyamba anali wamkulu kwambiri, ndinamuuza kuti, "Ndikupepesa kwambiri chifukwa cha mmene ndinachitira nanu." Ndinadziwa kuti sikuti nthawi zonse zimachitika bwino kwambiri, ndi mkwiyo umenewo nthawi zonse sindinali ndi chigonjetso, makamaka m'zaka zoyambirira pamene anali kukula. Koma iwo ndi okhululuka kwambiri. Mwana wanga anati, "Bambo, ndimangokumbukira zinthu zabwino kunyumba." Zimenezo zinandipangitsa kulira.
Choncho kachiwiri, momwe anthu amakuwonerani kwenikweni sizikutanthauza zambiri, ngati mukufunafuna moyo wa Khristu. Mukuona tchimo lanu lomwe limakhala mkati, ndipo mumadana nalo.
Mtendere m'nyumba
Ndikuganiza kuti chomwe chimafotokoza kwambiri nyumba yathu ndi chakuti ndi yamtendere kwambiri komanso yabwino kumeneko. Kunja mwina sizikuwoneka choncho. Ndili ndi ana aamuna ambiri, ndipo akhoza kukhala kunyumba ndi anzawo ndipo ali ndi phokoso ndipo nthawi zina timakangana pazinthu; pali zambiri zomwe zikuchitika ndipo ndizotanganidwa. Koma zimenezo sizikutanthauza kuti palibe mtendere.
Mtendere ndi wakuti ndi wabwino pakati pa anthu, komanso kuti sindine wosokoneza mtendere, koma kuti ndimamangadi mtendere. Kungoti anthu ali ndi malingaliro awo, ndipo amachita zinthu m'njira yawoyawo, zimenezo sizikutanthauza kuti sipangakhale mtendere. Pakati pa zimenezo zingakhale zamtendere kwambiri. Ndikudziwanso kuti ndikhozabe kuchita bwino. Ndikhoza kuthandiza kupanga mtendere wambiri, chifukwa bambo ali ndi zotsatira zazikulu pa momwe zilili kunyumba. Ngati ndili ndi moyo wogonjetsa, zimenezo zimakhudza kwambiri nyumba yathu.
Kuphulika kwa mkwiyo kumayamba ndi lingaliro limodzi
Chomwe ndikugwira ntchito tsopano ndi malingaliro ang'onoang'ono awa okhudza anthu. Kodi kupsa mtima kungafike patani? Anthu ena amapha ena chifukwa cha zimenezi, koma bwanji ponena za lingaliro loipa ponena za winawake? Kaŵirikaŵiri zimenezo zimayambitsa mkwiyo. Ndizochepa kwambiri, ndipo zili mkati. Palibe amene akuona. Koma ngati mukugwirizana ndi lingaliro limenelo ndi kupitirizabe kulilingalira, kodi si chimene chimachititsa mkwiyo?
Mumaona mukamagwira ntchito limodzi ndi anthu. Ndakhala m'banja zaka 33 tsopano. Nthaŵi zina ndimaona kuti ndimaganizira pang'ono za mkazi wanga, zimene amachita kapena kunena, ndipo zimatilekanitsa. Kodi chimenecho sichinthu chofunika kuzitenga mwamphamvu? Mwina sindikuponya zinthu kwa anthu kapena kuwakalipira, koma ndikuwona kuti ndidakali ndi malingaliro ang'onoang'ono awa motsutsana ndi ena ndi zomwe amachita. Ndikuthokoza kwambiri kuti ndikutha kuona malingaliro ang'onoang'ono awa, ndikuwachotsa.
Moyo umene sungawonongedwe.
Kwa zaka zambiri, nthawi zambiri ndakhala ndikuganizira za vesi limene limati, "... mphamvu ya moyo imene singawonongedwe." Ahebri 7:15-16. Ndicho chimene chalembedwa ponena za Yesu. Ndizo zomwe ndikufuna - moyo wodzaza ndi chikondi, chisamaliro, ubwino ndi chimwemwe. Ndikufuna kukhala munthu wosangalala, ndi chimwemwe chomwe sichingawonongedwe - palibe chomwe chingaphwanye, palibe chomwe chingakhudze.
Ngati mukuganiza za Yesu, amene ankadedwa ndi kudzudzulidwa ngakhale iye asanapite pa ulendo Wake womaliza, ndiyeno iwo anakhomerera Iye ku mtanda, ndipo Iye anapachika kumeneko, koma Iye akadali akhoza kupempherera anthu. Nthawi zambiri ndimaganizira zimenezo. Iye anati: "Atate, muwakhululukire, pakuti sadziwa zimene amachita." —Luka 23:34.
Ndizomwe ndikufuna. Sindikudziwa kuti moyo wanga udzatha bwanji. Koma moyo umenewo, palibe amene angauwononge. Palibe chimene chingathetse. Ziribe kanthu zomwe anthu amachita, choyamba chimene ndimachita nthawi zonse ndi kukhala wabwino kwa munthuyo. Umenewo ndi moyo wa Yesu ndipo ndi zomwe ndikufuna - chikondi, ubwino, chilungamo ndi zinthu zonsezi zomwe ufumu wakumwamba wapangidwa. Ine sindinafike pamenepo, koma ndikudziwa kuti zikubwera, ndipo ndikutha kuona moyo uno ukukhala wowonjezereka mwa ine pamene ndikugonjetsa mkwiyo wanga pang'onopang'ono. Umenewo ndi uthenga wabwino umene ndatembenuzidwa.