Nthawi zambiri ndamva anthu akunena kuti: "Aliyense amene mukukumana naye akumenya nkhondo imene simukudziwa chilichonse. Khalani okoma mtima. Nthawi zonse."
Ndaphunzira kuti nkhondoyi ikhoza kupambana!
Ndinali nditangoyamba kumene ntchito yatsopano, ndipo mbali ina ya ntchito imeneyo inali kuchita ndi anthu ena amene anali ndi maumunthu amphamvu, amphamvu ndi amene anawonekera kukhala amwano kwambiri.
Ndinadziŵa kuti sichinali chifuniro cha Mulungu kuti ndidzilole kukankhidwa, ndikuopa anthu. Zinandithandiza kuganiza kuti Mulungu ali mu ulamuliro wonse wa mkhalidwewo ndipo Iye samandiika ine mu mkhalidwe uliwonse umene sindingathe kupirira. (1 Akorinto 10:13.)
Pamene malingaliro a mantha ndi nkhaŵa ameneŵa anayamba kubwera, vesi ili pa 2 Timoteo 1:7 linalidi lothandiza kwa ine: "Pakuti Mulungu sanatipatse mzimu wa mantha, koma wa mphamvu, ndi chikondi, ndi wa nzeru zabwino." 2 Timoteyo 1:7.
Ndinadziuza kuti, "Zimene ndikukumana nazo tsopano ndikumverera; ndi mantha. Mulungu sanandipatse mzimu woopa mkhalidwe umenewu. Ichi sichinthu chomwe chimatanthauza kundichititsa mantha. Mulungu amafuna kuti ndikhale ndi mzimu wamphamvu komanso wokhala ndi maganizo abwino pa nkhani imeneyi." Ndinabwereza zimenezo kwa ine ndekha, ndipo ndinasumika maganizo pa mawu a m'vesi limenelo.
Nditachita zimenezo, ndinayamba kuganiza bwino, ndinapeza "maganizo abwino". Ndiyeno ndinatha kuona zimene Mulungu ankafuna kuti ndichite pa vutoli, ndipo sizinali kuopa. Ndikhoza kudalitsa munthu. Mwina ndingathandize munthu wina.
Kuchita mantha kulibe chochita ndi kukhala ndi maganizo abwino, ndipo si zimene Mulungu amafuna kwa ine. Mulungu angandipatse mphamvu zonse mu mkhalidwe uliwonse kuti ndikhale munthu amene amachita zimene ziyenera kuchitidwa. Anthu amphamvu awa ali m'moyo wanga chifukwa - kuti nditha kuphunzira chinachake chokhudza ine ndekha ndikuphunzira kuthana ndi mantha anga ndi nkhawa, ndikuti nditha kudalitsa ndipo mwina ngakhale kuwathandiza.
Chikondi changwiro
Vesi lina limene landithandiza kwambiri ndi lemba la 1 Yohane 4:18 (NCV): "Kumene kuli chikondi cha Mulungu, kulibe mantha, chifukwa chikondi changwiro cha Mulungu chimachititsa mantha. Ndi chilango chimene chimapangitsa munthu kuopa, choncho chikondi sichipangidwa kukhala changwiro mwa munthu amene amaopa." Ndinazindikira kuti n'kupusa kuganiza kuti sindingathe kukhala ndi anthu ena chifukwa umunthu wawo umandichititsa mantha. Kumangidwa moyo wanga wonse ndi mantha awa!
"Kumene kuli chikondi cha Mulungu, kulibe mantha." Mulungu amakonda kwambiri aliyense. Ngati ndingathe kuona anthu amphamvu amenewo, olamulira mmene Mulungu amawaonera, ngati ndingathe kukhala ndi chikondi chomwecho kwa iwo, ndiye kuti sindiyenera kuwaopa. Koma kuposa pamenepo, ndiye kuti ndikufunanso kuwapangira zabwino.
Ndikufuna kukhala ndi chikondi chofananacho kwa iwo chimene Mulungu amachita. Tsopano ndikhoza kulowa m'mikhalidwe yomweyo, ndipo pamene ndikuyesedwa kuti ndiope kapena kugonjetsedwa ndimadzilimbikitsa ndi vesi limenelo. "Kumene kuli chikondi cha Mulungu, kulibe mantha." Sindiopa. Mulungu ali ndi chisamaliro chofanana kwa munthu ameneyu monga momwe Iye alili kwa ine.
Kuganizira ena
Choncho aliyense amene ndili naye, sindifunikira kuopa. Ndikhoza kuganiza kuti, "Mwina munthu uyu akufuna thandizo? Kodi ndingawachitire chiyani?" Kenaka ndimatuluka m'malingaliro anga adyera ndikukonda ena, kumene ndimakonda kuganizira za nkhondo zomwe angakhale akumenya, m'malo modzidera nkhawa.
Mantha nthawi zambiri amabwera chifukwa ndikufuna kuti enawo andiganizire bwino, koma monga momwe vesi la pa Yohane 5:44 limanenera kuti: "Mungakhulupirire bwanji, amene amalandira ulemu kwa wina ndi mnzake, ndipo musafunefune ulemu wochokera kwa Mulungu yekhayo?"
Kuyambira nthawi imeneyo, ndakhala ndikulowa m'mikhalidwe imene ndakhala ndikuganiza kuti, "N'chifukwa chiyani ndinkaopa munthu ameneyu?" Tsopano ine kwenikweni kukhala pamodzi nawo ndi kunena zinthu ndi kukhala dalitso. Nthawi zina ndimayesedwabe kuti ndiziopa, koma kenako ndimadziuza kuti: "Ayi! Kumene kuli chikondi cha Mulungu, palibe mantha! Mulungu, ndithandizeni kuchita izi. Ndithandizeni kukhala dalitso." Ndikhoza kugonjetsa mantha anga ndikukhala nawo bwino ndi anthu, ngakhale kuti umunthu wathu sumagwirizana mwachibadwa. Ndiye zotsatira zake n'zakuti ndikhoza kugwirizana ndi kukhala ndi zabwino ndi aliyense.