Monga Mkristu, kukhala womasuka ku mkwiyo ndi chinthu chimene tonsefe timafuna, sichoncho? Tikufuna kusonyeza ubwino, kukoma mtima ndi kuleza mtima kwa ena, ngakhale pamene iwo sanali okoma mtima kwambiri kwa ife. Koma zimenezi si zophweka nthawi zonse. Tikhoza kuganiza kuti tikusunga mkwiyo wathu bwino pansi pa ulamuliro mpaka, mwadzidzidzi, chinachake chimachitika chomwe chimangotipangitsa kutaya ulamuliro wonse womwe tinkaganiza kuti tili nawo.
Nthawi zambiri ndinkakwiya ndikakula. Zinandikwiyitsa kwambiri komanso kukwiya pamene ena sanachite zimene ndinkafuna, makamaka abale ndi alongo anga!
Lemba la Yakobo 1:19-20 (CEV) limati: "Muyenera kufulumira kumvetsera ndi kuchedwa kulankhula kapena kukwiya. Ngati mwakwiya, simungathe kuchita chilichonse mwa zinthu zabwino zimene Mulungu akufuna kuti zichitike." N'zoonekeratu kuti kukwiya ndi anthu ena n'kosiyana ndi zimene Mulungu amafuna. Zimayambitsa kugawanika ndi kuwawidwa mtima.
Pamene ndinawona chiyambukiro chimene mayankho anga akuthwa ndi kusuliza kunali nacho pa ena, ndinayesetsa kwambiri kuti ndisakhale ndi mkwiyo umenewu. Sindinafune kupitiriza kukhala chochititsa kugawanika ndi kuwawidwa mtima.
Ndinaganiza kuti ndakhala waluso pa kusonyeza kuleza mtima ndi kumvetsetsa kufikira mlungu wina pamene mwadzidzidzi ndinawona kutali kumene ndinafunikirabe kupita.
Zochitika zingapo zopanda mwayi
Kumapeto kwa mlungu umenewo, ndinapita ku ulendo ndi anzanga, ndipo tsiku loyamba zonse zinaoneka ngati zikulakwika. Ndipo ndinali kuimba mlandu enawo chifukwa cha zimenezo. M'malo mochitapo kanthu moleza mtima ndi mokoma mtima, ndinapitirizabe kunena mawu okwiya ndi mawu opweteka. Zonse zomwe ndinkaganiza ndi momwe enawo anali ndi udindo pa chilichonse chomwe chinalakwika. N'chifukwa chiyani sanaganizirepo zinthu zimenezi pasadakhale? N'chifukwa chiyani sanakonzekere bwino? Iwo, iwo, iwo, iwo...
Koma kenaka, pamene ndinapeza nthaŵi ya kulingalira za icho pamapeto pake, mafunsowo anapitirizabe kubwereza m'mutu mwanga. N'chifukwa chiyani sindinathe kuchitapo kanthu pa zochita zanga ? N'chifukwa chiyani sindinathe kusonyeza ubwino, ngakhale mu mkhalidwe wovuta? Ndipo kenako zinaonekeratu kwa ine: Ndinali kukwiya chifukwa ndinkayembekezera kuti enawo achite bwino zinthu. Ndinali kukwiya, monga momwe ndimachitira pamene ndinali wamng'ono, chifukwa sindinathe kupirira mfundo yakuti iwo sanali kuchita zinthu ndendende monga momwe ndinkafunira. Ndinalibe chikondi!
Kodi chikondi nchiyani?
1 Akorinto 13:4-7 (NLT) amalankhula nafe za tanthauzo la kusonyeza chikondi: "Chikondi n'choleza mtima ndi chokoma mtima. Chikondi sichiri nsanje kapena kudzitama kapena kunyada kapena mwano. Sichifuna njira yakeyake. Sichikwiya, ndipo sichisunga mbiri ya kulakwiridwa. Sichikondwera ndi chisalungamo koma chimakondwera nthaŵi iliyonse pamene chowonadi chipambana. Chikondi sichitaya mtima, sichitaya chikhulupiriro, nthawi zonse chimakhala ndi chiyembekezo, ndipo chimapirira m'mikhalidwe iliyonse."
Pa nthawi yochepa kwambiri, ndinali ndi mlandu wotsutsana ndi pafupifupi chilichonse m'vesi pamwambapa. Zinaonekeratu kuti zochita zanga zinali zosiyana kwambiri ndi chikondi.
Mbali yoyamba ya vesili imati: "Chikondi n'choleza mtima ndiponso n'chokoma mtima." Palibe zosiyana ndi izi. Silimanena kuti: "Chikondi ndi choleza mtima komanso chokoma mtima, pokhapokha ..." Ngati sindikuchitapo kanthu moleza mtima ndi mokoma mtima, sindikusonyeza chikondi.
Ndimayesedwa ndi zilakolako zauchimo m'chibadwa changa chaumunthu
Yakobo 1:14-15 (NCV) akuti, "Koma anthu amayesedwa pamene chilakolako chawo choipa chiwatsogolera kutali ndi kuwagwira. Chilakolako chimenechi chimatsogolera ku uchimo, kenako tchimo limakula n'kubweretsa imfa." Ena angachite zinthu zimene zimayambitsa "chikhumbo" changa chofuna kukwiya, chifukwa chilakolako chauchimo chimenechi chimakhala mwa ine. Koma ine sindiyenera kupereka izi.
Nditawona kuti ndapereka mkwiyo wanga tsiku limenelo, ndinaganiza zotenga nkhondo yolimbana nayo - kusintha maganizo anga pa ena omwe amandizungulira. M'malo mowaimba mlandu, ndinaganiza zowayamikira.
Kwa mlungu wonsewo, panali nthaŵi zambiri zimene ndinayesedwa kukwiya, koma tsopano zinali zosiyana. Tsopano ndinazindikira kuti sindinafunikire kulola mkwiyo wanga kundilamulira. Ndingakonde kusankha kuchitapo kanthu moleza mtima, mokoma mtima. Pamene ndinali kuchita zimenezi, ndinaona mmene mapeto ena onse a mlungu anakhalira amtendere kwambiri ndi osangalatsa kwa tonsefe.
Kodi ndingatani kuti ndisakwiyire?
Anthu otizungulira nthawi zambiri amachita zinthu zopanda nzeru kwa ife ngakhale pang'ono. M'mikhalidwe yotereyi n'zosavuta kuyesedwa kuti ndikwiye kapena kukwiya n'kumaganiza kuti, "Akanakhala kuti anachita zinthu mosiyana, zingakhale zosavuta kuti ndikhale naye pafupi." Koma taganizirani izi: Kodi kukula kwanga kwauzimu kumadalira zochita zanga kapena zochita za anthu ena amene ndili nawo?
Sindingathe kulamulira zomwe ena amachita. Ndikhoza kungodziletsa ndekha - ndi ine amene ndimasankha kusonyeza kukoma mtima kapena kukwiya pamene chinachake chikuchitika. Kuyembekezera kuti wina asinthe ndikuganiza kuti, "Ndikhala munthu wabwino pokhapokha atakhala munthu wabwino," sizomveka ngakhale pang'ono.
Tingayesedwenso kugwiritsira ntchito chodzikhululukira chakuti: "Ndingokhala ndi mkwiyo wofulumira. Ndimakwiya mosavuta." Mwinamwake izi ndi zoona tsopano, koma kodi ziyenera kukhala choncho? Kodi cholinga changa monga Mkristu ndicho kutha kotheratu ndi kukwiya, kapena kodi ndili bwino ndi kulamulidwa ndi icho?
"Lekani kukwiya ndi kukwiya ndi kukwiya ndi ena. Musamakalipirane kapena kutukwanana kapena kukhala amwano. M'malomwake, khalani okoma mtima ndi achifundo, ndipo mukhululukire ena, monga mmene Mulungu anakukhululukirani chifukwa cha Khristu." Aefeso 4:31-32 (CEV).
Kukoma mtima. Chifundo. Kukhululuka. Ndicho cholinga chathu! Ngakhale kumapeto kwa sabata pamene zinthu sizikuyenda mogwirizana ndi dongosolo.