Kunyada ndi tchimo limene lachititsa kuvutika kwakukulu ndi kupanda chimwemwe m'mbiri yonse ya anthu. Ndipo anthu onse, mosasamala kanthu za chiyambi chawo, kuleredwa kapena chikhalidwe, mwachibadwa ali odzala ndi kunyada. Koma nkotheka kusinthidwa ndipo, pang'onopang'ono, kugonjetsa kunyada kotheratu m'miyoyo yathu!
Kodi kunyada nchiyani?
Kunyada si tchimo limene mumachita mofanana ndi kuba kapena kunena bodza. Ndi maganizo a mtima ndi njira yoganizira. Simungathe kuona mphepo, koma mukhoza kuona zotsatira za mphepo, ndipo ndizofanana ndi kunyada. Simungathe "kuwona" kunyada, koma mutha kuwona zotsatira zake. Kwenikweni, kunyada ndiko kuganiza kuti ndinu wabwino kuposa momwe mulilidi. (Aroma 12:3.)
Choncho, funso lotsatira ndi lakuti, "Kodi ndiyenera kuganizira bwanji za ine ndekha?" Paulo akuti ndiyenera kuganiza "soberly". Kodi chimenecho chitanthauza chiyani? Chowonadi ndi chakuti munthu aliyense amene wabadwa kuyambira masiku a Adamu ndi Hava, ali ndi chikhalidwe chogwa, chikhalidwe chochimwa. Anthu onse ali ndi zilakolako zauchimo ndi zokhumba mu chikhalidwe chawo, kukhala kwawo konse kumakhala kodzaza ndi kudzifunira ndi kudzikonda komwe iwo makamaka amangosamala za zomwe zili zabwino kwa iwo okha. Anthu oterewa sangathe kukhala ndi moyo wabwino kwathunthu ngakhale atachita zinthu zambiri "zabwino" - zinthu izi nthawi zambiri zimachitika ndi iwo okha m'maganizo.
Ndisanatembenuzidwe kukhala Mulungu, ndimagonja ku kudzikonda kumeneku nthawi iliyonse imene ndikuganiza kuti ndi yabwino kwa ine. Ndipo ngakhale nditatembenuzidwa ndi kufuna kuchita chifuniro cha Mulungu, tchimo la umunthu wanga limandipangitsa kuchita zinthu zambiri zopusa, zadyera ndi zopweteka kwa ena. Ngakhale ine mwina sindichita machimo amenewa mwadala, iwo adzakhala ndi zotsatira zoopsa kwambiri moyo wanga wonse, banja langa ndi anthu ena ozungulira ine. Choncho, kuti ndiganizire "mofatsa" ndi kumvetsa kuti ndili ndi tchimo lalikulu loti ndipulumutsidwe. Ndicho choonadi. Pali zambiri zoti tiphunzire - kuchokera kwa Mulungu kudzera m'Baibulo, kudzera mwa Mzimu Wake Woyera, kudzera mwa atumwi, aneneri ndi aphunzitsi Iye waika mu mpingo komanso kwa anthu ena omwe Iye amagwiritsa ntchito kundithandiza.
Koma ngati ndikunyadira, ndiye ndikuganiza kuti ndikudziwa ndikumvetsetsa mokwanira ndipo ndine wabwino kwambiri kuti ndisamalire popanda thandizo lonseli. Ndikuganiza kuti ndikudziwa momwe ndingakhalira ndi moyo. Sindikusowa mphunzitsi kapena malangizo. Ndikhoza kudzisankhira ndekha chabwino ndi choipa! Ndipo chotero sindiganiza nkomwe za kupempha Mulungu ndi kupeza thandizo m'Mawu Ake. Ndipo kenako ndimachita zinthu zosiyanasiyana zomwe zili zolakwika komanso zopweteka anthu ena popanda ine ngakhale kuzidziwa.
N'chifukwa chake zalembedwa pa Salmo 10:4, "Oipa samasamala za Yehova; m'kunyada kwawo amaganiza kuti Mulungu alibe kanthu."
Si anthu ena okha amene amanyadira. Munthu aliyense ali ngati ameneyu mwachibadwa, zili m'chilengedwe chathu kufuna kudzisankhira tokha chabwino ndi choipa ndi kunyalanyaza malamulo a Mulungu.
Kodi zimenezo zikutanthauza kuti kunyada ndiko muzu wa uchimo wonse?
Inde. Lemba la Yesaya 14:12-14 limafotokoza maganizo a Lusifara, mngelo amene anali wangwiro mu nzeru ndi kukongola: "Ndidzakwera kumwamba," "Ndidzaika mpando wanga wachifumu pamwamba pa nyenyezi zapamwamba," ndi "Ndidzakhala ngati Mulungu Wam'mwambamwamba." Chikhumbo ichi chofuna kudzipangitsa kukhala wamkulu - kunyada kwake - chinali tchimo loyamba. Pambuyo pake, pamene iye anaponyedwa pansi monga Satana, iye anayesa Hava kuchita ndendende chinthu chomwecho mwa kunena kuti ngati iye anadya kuchokera mumtengo wodziŵitsa zabwino ndi zoipa ndiye kuti iye "adzakhala ngati Mulungu, wakudziŵa zabwino ndi zoipa." (Genesis 3:5.)
Satana anam'lola kuganiza kuti ngati angathe 'kukwera' n'kukhala ngati Mulungu, sangafunikire malamulo a Mulungu. Ndiyeno iye mwiniyo akakhoza kusankha chabwino ndi choipa. Iye sangafunikire Mulungu kunena kuti, "Ukhoza kudya mitengo yonse, koma osati iyi," ndi zina zotero. Chikhumbo cha kudzisankhira ndekha ndi kukhala bwana wanga, ndicho muzu wa uchimo wonse. Ndi kunyada. Ndikufuna kuchita chifuniro changa osati chifuniro cha Mulungu. Si mwamwayi kuti "ndidzatero" zikuwonekera kasanu mu zomwe Lusifala adanena. Zimenezi nzosiyana ndendende ndi mzimu wa Kristu, amene anatsika ndi amene sanaganize kuti kukhala wolingana ndi Mulungu kunali chinthu choyenera kufunidwa. (Afilipi 2:5-11.)
Kodi tingaone bwanji kunyada?
Chifukwa cha zimenezo tikufunikira zinthu ziwiri. Choyamba, tiyenera kukhala ndi anthu ena komanso m'mikhalidwe yosiyanasiyana - mwa mawu ena, timangofunika kukhala ndi moyo wabwinobwino. Ngati tikhoza kukhala tokha kwinakwake kwabwino, tinali ndi zonse zomwe tinkafunikira ndipo palibe chomwe chinapita "cholakwika", mwina tikanavutika kuona kunyada kwathu. Koma tikakhala limodzi ndi ena m'mikhalidwe yabwinobwino ya moyo, sizidzatenga nthawi yaitali kuti mkwiyo, kukwiya, nsanje, kudandaula ndi kudandaula etc. zibwere. Machimo onsewa ali ndi muzu wawo mu kunyada kwanga.
Koma chomwe chiri choipa kwambiri ndi chakuti munthu akhoza kumva kuti kuli bwino kukhala ndi zochita zonsezi zoipa. Anthu ambiri amakhulupirira kuti palibe vuto kuchita zinthu ngati zimenezo. Kotero, kuti ndiwone zochita izi chifukwa cha zomwe zilidi, monga tchimo, ndikufunikira china chake - ndikuyenera kukhala ndi zochita ndi Mulungu m'maganizo anga. Ndizo zomwe Baibulo limatcha "chiyanjano" ndi Mulungu - kudzera m'Mawu Ake, kudzera mwa Mzimu Woyera ndi kudzera mwa atumiki Ake mu mpingo. Kupyolera mu izi ndimapeza "kuwala", zomwe zikutanthauza kuti ndikumvetsetsa zomwe zikundipangitsa kuchita motere. Ndipo kenako ndimayamba kudzilira ndekha n'kuyamba kudana ndi zochita zimenezi. Ndicho chifukwa chake chimodzi mwa zinthu zopusa kwambiri zomwe ndingathe kuchita m'moyo ndikuchoka ku chiyanjano ndi ziwalo zina za thupi la Khristu.
Nthawi zina anthu amanena kuti amanyadira chinachake. Kodi zimenezo nzolakwika?
Ayi. Pali chinthu china chimene nthawi zina timachitcha "kunyadira" chomwe chingakhale chabwino. Izi ndi kumverera kwa chikhutiro kapena chisangalalo chomwe chimabwera chifukwa ine, banja langa, kapena abwenzi takwaniritsa chinachake chabwino kapena chothandiza. Nthawi zambiri timanena kuti "timanyadira" zinthu izi kapena kukhala m'gulu linalake kapena gulu linalake; palibe cholakwika ndi mtundu umenewo wa "kunyada".
Momwemonso, ndibwino kukhala ndi chidaliro kuti ndikudziwa zomwe ndikuchita, mwachitsanzo ntchito yanga. Zingakhale zomvetsa chisoni ngati dokotala wanga sanali wotsimikiza kwambiri ngati anali kundipatsa mankhwala oyenera, kapena woyendetsa ndegeyo sanali wotsimikiza momwe angayendetsere ndege yomwe ndili nayo!
Mtundu uwu wa "kunyada" si tchimo; ndi chidaliro chomwe chimapangitsa kuti tithe kuchita zinthu. Zimakhala ndi zotsatira zabwino. Koma zimenezi nzosiyana kotheratu ndi kunyada kotchulidwa pamwambapa, kumene kuli muzu wa uchimo wonse.
Kodi ndi zitsanzo zina ziti za kunyada?
Pali njira zambiri, zambiri zimene ziyambukiro za kunyada zingawonedwe m'njira imene munthu amachitira kapena m'zimene munthu amachita. Nazi zitsanzo zochepa chabe za kunyada:
Kukhumudwa - chifukwa ine kapena banja langa tachitiridwa m'njira yomwe inali "pansi panga / ife." Tinayenera kuchitiridwa bwino kapena mwachilungamo.
Kukwiya - kodi anthu amalimba mtima bwanji kundichitira zimenezo kapena kulankhula nane m'njira yotereyi? - Ine amene ndili wofunika kwambiri.
Kukhala wosasamala komanso wosagwira ntchito - chifukwa sindikumva kuti ndingathe kuchita zinthu mwangwiro. Ndikhoza kulakwitsa ndikuwoneka wopusa. Choncho, ngati sindingathe kukhala wangwiro, sindidzachita chilichonse.
Kukhala chete ndipo osanena zomwe ndikuganiza - chifukwa ndinganene chinachake chomwe chiri cholakwika.
Kukhala wokhumudwa komanso wosakhazikika - chifukwa anthu akhala akulankhula zoipa za ine kumbuyo kwanga. Sindingathe kupirira manyazi ndi manyazi, choncho ndiyenera kuthamanga poyesa kufotokoza zochita zanga kapena zolinga zanga.
Mwa kudzitamandira - chifukwa anthu ayenera kudziwa momwe ndinachitira bwino zinthu.
Mwa kunama - chifukwa ngati ndikunena zoona anthu adzandiganizira moipa kapena ndikhoza kulowa m'mavuto ndipo ndikofunikira kwambiri kuti aliyense andiganizire bwino.
Kunyoza anthu ena - chifukwa amachita zinthu mosiyana kwa ine ndipo ndikuganiza kuti njira yanga ndi yabwino. Kapena ine ndikuganiza iwo ndi zochepa wanzeru, mphatso kapena olemera etc. Ndipo mulimonse mmene zingakhalire, mwa kuika anthu ena pansi, ine ndekha ndimamva bwino pang'ono kuposa iwo!
Kukhumudwa - chifukwa zinthu sizikuyenda momwe ndingafune, ndipo sindikuwona momwe zidzafunira. Izi sizikuwoneka ngati kunyada, koma ndi tchimo, chifukwa malingaliro anga ndi mapulani anga ndi ofunika kwambiri pa moyo wanga kuposa chifuniro cha Mulungu ndi kutsogolera.
Kodi timagonjetsa bwanji kunyada?
Ngati tiwona kunyada kwathu ndi zotsatira zake, ndikugwira ntchito mwadala motsutsana nazo m'malingaliro athu, mawu ndi zochita zathu, tikhoza kugonjetsa kunyada.
"Yandikirani kwa Mulungu, ndipo Mulungu adzayandikira kwa inu." Yakobo 4:8. Pamene tichita ndi Mulungu m'malingaliro athu, kumadzetsa chiwongolero ndi chiweruzo. Timaona zophophonya zathu. Tikuwona kumene kunyada kuli kuntchito. Timamvetsa kumene kuli chifuniro chathu, choncho tikhoza kudzichepetsa mwa kumvera malamulo a Mulungu. Ndicho chifukwa chake zalembedwa pambuyo pake m'mutu womwewo, "Dzichepetseni pamaso pa Ambuye ..." Yakobo 4:10.
Kodi "kudzichepetsa?"
Chabwino, zomwe sizikutanthauza ndikuzungulira mu mkhalidwe wolefulidwa ndikudziuza ndekha kuti ndine wopanda pake, wopanda chiyembekezo, kuti ndine woipa kwambiri kuti ndisinthe, ndi zina zotero. Zilibe kanthu ndi kuvala mtundu wina wa otchedwa "wodzichepetsa" khalidwe lakunja kapena. Zinthu zimenezi n'zopanda pake pochita ndi kunyada. Iwo amatsutsana kotheratu ndi Mawu a Mulungu amene amapereka chiyembekezo kwa munthu aliyense mosasamala kanthu za mmene anachimwira. Choncho, zinthu zimenezi kwenikweni komanso kunyada, basi mu mtundu wina!
Ayi, Yesu "anadzichepetsa yekha ndipo anakhala womvera". (Afilipi 2:8.) N'zosatheka kudzichepetsa kwenikweni popanda kukhala wofunitsitsa kumvera malamulo a Mulungu. Mwachitsanzo, sindikufuna kuthawa zilakolako ndi zilakolako zaunyamata. (2 Timoteyo 2:22.) Ndikuganiza kuti ndidzakhala wosangalala kwambiri Ngati ndipereka kwa iwo. Umu ndi mmene anthu amaganizira mwachibadwa, ndipo n'chifukwa chake dziko ladzala ndi nkhani zomvetsa chisoni za mmene khalidwe loterolo lachititsa mavuto ambiri. Koma ngati ndine wofunitsitsa kuvomereza kuti malamulo a Mulungu ndi oona ndipo ndikuthawa zilakolako ndi zilakolako zimenezi ndi mtima wanga wonse, ndiye kuti ndadzichepetsa.
N'chimodzimodzinso ndikamva nkhawa koma ndimachitabe zimene zalembedwa kuti: "Musadandaule ndi chilichonse, koma pempherani ndi kupempha Mulungu zonse zimene mukufuna, nthawi zonse muziyamikira ..." Afilipi 4:6. Kuchita zimenezo pamene ndikuyesedwa kuda nkhawa ndi zomwe zimatanthauza kudzichepetsa, chifukwa ndiye kuti ndikumvera chifuniro cha Mulungu m'malo mwa changa. Imeneyo ndi "mankhwala" angwiro motsutsana ndi kuganiza kuti ndikudziwa zonse ndipo sindikusowa thandizo la Mulungu. Kudzichepetsa koteroko n'kosiyana ndi tchimo la kunyada. Ndi mzimu wa Yesu Kristu!
