Chigololo ndi pamene munthu wokwatira akugonana ndi munthu amene sali naye pa banja. Baibulo limanena momveka bwino zimenezi pamene tikuwerenga pa Eksodo 20:14 kuti: "Usachite chigololo." Ngati muchita zimenezi, mumaswa lonjezo limene munapanga pamaso pa Mulungu la kukhala wokhulupirika kwa mnzanu wa muukwati.
Zalembedwa kuti Mulungu "wakongoletsa zonse m'nthawi yake," (Mlaliki 3:11) ndipo nthawi imene wapereka kuti azigonana ndi ya mwamuna ndi mkazi mkati mwa ukwati.
Kukhala ndi unansi wa kugonana umenewu asanakwatirane kapena ndi munthu wina pambuyo pa ukwati kuli m'kusamvera mwachindunji chifuniro cha Mulungu, monga momwe kwanenera pa Ahebri 13:4: "Lemekezani ukwati. Nthawi zonse khalani okhulupirika kwa mnzanuyo, chifukwa Mulungu adzalanga aliyense wachiwerewere kapena wosakhulupirika m'banja." Ngakhale ngati mnzanuyo angavomereze chokumana nacho chachigololo, ichi sichimachipangitsa kukhala chovomerezeka pamaso pa Mulungu.
Khalani kutali ndi chiwerewere
Paulo akuchenjeza momveka bwino za khalidwe lonse loterolo pa 1 Akorinto 6:18: "Choncho kuthawa tchimo la kugonana. Tchimo lina lililonse limene anthu amachita lili kunja kwa matupi awo, koma amene amachimwa amagonana ndi matupi awo." Tiyenera kugwiritsa ntchito thupi lathu kulemekeza Iye amene anapereka, monga akunenera pa 1 Akorinto 6:19-20: "Kapena simukudziwa kuti thupi lanu ndi kachisi wa Mzimu Woyera amene ali mwa inu? Kodi simukudziwa kuti muli ndi Mzimu Woyera wochokera kwa Mulungu, ndipo simuli a inu nokha? Mwagulidwa ndi kulipidwa, choncho lemekezani Mulungu ndi thupi lanu."
Ndipo pa 1 Atesalonika 4:3-5 limati: "Mulungu amafuna kuti mukhale oyera ndi kukhala kutali ndi machimo ogonana. Amafuna kuti aliyense wa inu aphunzire kulamulira thupi lanu m'njira yopatulika ndi yolemekezeka. Musagwiritse ntchito thupi lanu pa tchimo la kugonana ngati anthu amene sadziwa Mulungu."
Yesu ananena kuti ndi chigololo ngakhale mutangofuna kuchimwa kugonana ndi munthu wina, ngakhale kuti ndi cholinga chobisika mumtima ndi m'maganizo mwanu kuti: "Mwamva kuti zinanenedwa kuti, 'Usakhale ndi mlandu wa chigololo.' Koma ndikukuuzani kuti ngati wina ayang'ana mkazi n'kufuna kuchimwa naye kugonana, m'maganizo mwake wachita kale tchimo limenelo ndi mkaziyo." Mateyu 5:27-28.
Yesu ananenanso za mmene tiyenera kuitengera kuti tipewe tchimo loterolo: "Ngati diso lako lamanja likuchimwitsa, utulutse ndi kulitaya. Ndi bwino kutaya mbali imodzi ya thupi lanu kusiyana ndi kuti thupi lanu lonse liponyedwe ku gehena. Ngati dzanja lanu lamanja likuchimwitsa, liduleni ndi kulitaya. Ndi bwino kutaya mbali imodzi ya thupi lanu kusiyana ndi kuti thupi lanu lonse lipite ku gehena." Mateyu 5:29-30.
Yesu amadziwa mmene angatithandizire
Tikayesedwa ndi maganizo oipa, tingakumbukire kuti Yesu anatitheketsa kugonjetsa. Timawerenga pa Aheberi 4:15-16: "Pakuti mkulu wa ansembe wathu amatha kumvetsa zofooka zathu. Iye anayesedwa m'njira iliyonse imene ife tiri, koma sanachimwe. Choncho, tiyeni tikhale otsimikiza kwambiri kuti tingabwere pamaso pa mpando wachifumu wa Mulungu kumene kuli chisomo. Kumeneko tingalandire chifundo ndi chisomo kuti zitithandize pamene tikufunikira."
Pa mpando wachifumu wa chisomo, kudzera mwa Yesu, tidzalandira thandizo limene tikufunikira. Yesu akumvetsa mmene tilili ofooka, ndipo Iye amadziwa bwino mmene angatithandizire, monga momwe limanenera pa Aheberi 2:18: "Ndipo tsopano akhoza kuthandiza anthu amene akuyesedwa, chifukwa iye mwini anavutika ndipo anayesedwa."
Palibe chimwemwe chenicheni kwa Mkristu kunja kwa chifuniro cha Mulungu. "Zosangalatsa" za chigololo n'zochepa kwambiri koma chisoni pambuyo pake ndi cha nthawi yaitali kwambiri. Wodala ndi aliyense amene, mofanana ndi Yesu, amasankha kuchita chifuniro cha Mulungu, ndipo sagonja ku chiyeso, ngakhale zitatanthauza nkhondo ndi kuvutika kwa kanthawi. Pamenepo tidzakhala dalitso ndi chitsanzo kumene tili. Ndipo pamene tili okhulupirika pano padziko lapansi, tidzakhala odzala ndi chimwemwe, tsopano ndi mu umuyaya.