Ubale si nthawi zonse zophweka. Anthu ndi osiyana kwambiri ndi wina ndi mnzake. Mmene munthu wina amaganizira zingakhale zosiyana kotheratu ndi mmene munthu wina amaganizira. Anthu amakondanso kulankhulana m'njira zosiyanasiyana.
Mulungu analenga aliyense wa ife ndi mphatso ndi maluso enaake, ndipo tingayamikire aliyense ndi mphamvu zake zosiyana. Aliyense wa ife alinso ndi madera m'chilengedwe chathu kumene mwachibadwa ndife ofooka, madera omwe tingatukuke. Chifukwa cha zimenezi, pali zinthu zambiri zimene tingaphunzire kwa wina ndi mnzake m'moyo wonse.
Phunziro #1: Ndikuyenera kuganizira madera omwe ineyo ndikufunika kusintha
Phunziro limodzi lomwe lidzandithandiza kukhala ndi ubale wabwino ndiloti ndikufunika kukhala ndi mgwirizano wanga ndi Mulungu m'moyo, ndikuganizira zomwe Mulungu akufuna kuti ndichite m'mikhalidwe yosiyanasiyana m'malo mwa zomwe anthu ena akuchita. Anthu ambiri amadziwa mavesi a pa Mateyu 7:1-2 (NIRV): "Musaweruze ena. Pamenepo simudzaweruzidwa. Mudzaweruzidwa mofanana ndi mmene mumaweruzira ena. Mudzayesedwa mofanana ndi mmene mumayezera ena." Chotero funso kwa ine nndiloti ndiyenera kuchita motani zimenezi m'moyo wanga, wa tsiku ndi tsiku?
Ndikudziwa kuti mmene ndimaonera zinthu si nthawi zonse mmene munthu wina angaonere zinthu zofananazo. Ndipo ngakhale pamene kulankhulana kuli kwabwino, nkothekabe kusamvetsetsa kapena kuweruza molakwa. Choncho pamene Yesu anatipatsa lamulo limenelo, sizinali chifukwa chakuti kuweruza ena m'maganizo mwanga kumatsogolera ku mitundu yonse ya zoipa, monga kudzudzula, kukayikira ndi miseche. Chinalinso chifukwa chakuti chiweruzo changa sichiri chowona nthaŵi zonse ndi cholungama mwangwiro.
"N'chifukwa chiyani mukuona fumbi laling'ono m'diso la mnzanuyo, koma simukuona chidutswa chachikulu cha nkhuni m'diso lanu? Kodi munganene bwanji kwa mnzanuyo kuti, 'Ndiloleni ndichotse fumbi laling'ono limenelo m'diso lanu'? Zione wekha! Mudakali ndi chidutswa chachikulu chimenecho cha nkhuni m'diso lanu. Wonyenga iwe! Choyamba, chotsani nkhuni m'diso lanu. Pamenepo mudzaona bwino lomwe kuchotsa fumbi m'diso la bwenzi lanu." Mateyu 7:3-5 (NCV).
Ngati ndisumika maganizo pa kumene ine ndekha ndikufunikira kusintha pamene ndikuyesedwa kuweruza ndi kudzudzula, ndiye kuti ndidzapeza kuti ndili ndi zambiri zogwirira ntchito mwa ine ndekha.
Ndikakhala pamodzi ndi ena, Mulungu amafuna kundisonyeza zinthu zokhudza ineyo, zinthu zimene sizili mmene ziyenera kukhalira. (Yakobo 1:4; 1 Petro 5:10; Afilipi 3:12.)
Mwachitsanzo, mwina ndimada nkhawa mosavuta ndi zimene anthu ena amaganiza za ine, choncho ndimagwiritsa ntchito nthawi yambiri ndikuda nkhawa ndi zinthu zimene ananena kapena kuchita. Mulungu amafuna kuti ndikhale ndi chimwemwe changwiro ndi mtendere m'moyo wanga wa tsiku ndi tsiku, ndipo n'zosavuta kuona kuti kuda nkhawa ngati kumeneku sikumabweretsa chimwemwe changwiro ndi mtendere. Choncho, Mulungu ayenera kundisonyeza chizolowezi chimenechi kudzera m'mikhalidwe ya moyo wa tsiku ndi tsiku, ndiyeno ndikhoza kuchigonjetsa.
Phunziro #2: Tikhoza kukhala ndi maganizo ofanana, mosasamala kanthu kuti ndife osiyana bwanji
Yesu anabwera "kudzathetsa chimene chinapanga kugawanika pakati pathu". (Aefeso 2:14-18, BBE.) Mu Chipangano Chatsopano, zalembedwa za momwe Agiriki ndi Ayuda sanagwirizane konse chifukwa anali osiyana kotheratu ndi wina ndi mnzake - anali ndi miyambo yosiyana, miyambo yachikhalidwe, ndi zikhulupiriro zosiyana. Iwo basi sanathe kumvetsetsana. Koma Yesu anasintha kuti pamene Iye anabwera ndi "uthenga wa mtanda", amene amatiphunzitsa kugonjetsa zokhumba ndi zofuna za chikhalidwe chathu chochimwa.
Werengani zambiri za uthenga wa mtanda pano: Uthenga wa mtanda: Chikhristu chothandiza
Kunena mosavuta, cholinga chake n'chakuti ndimangochitapo kanthu ndi ubwino, kukoma mtima, ndi chikondi kwa anthu amene ndikumana nawo. Pochitapo kanthu, zikutanthauza kuti ndiyenera kugonjetsa zonse mwa ine ndekha zomwe zimandiletsa kukhala wokhoza kuchita zimenezo. Zimenezo zikhoza kukhala dyera langa, kudzikonda kwanga ndi malingaliro, nkhawa, kusaleza mtima, kuopa zomwe anthu amaganiza, ndi zina zotero.
Choncho ngakhale anthu atakhala osiyana kotheratu, njira imeneyi yogonjetsera zizoloŵezi zathu zauchimo ndi zofuna zathu ikhoza kuthetsa "kugawanika" konse ndi kumenyana, ndipo ingatichititse kukhala ndi maganizo ofanana: tili ndi cholinga chomwecho - kugonjetsa zilakolako zauchimo ndi zofuna zomwe zimatilekanitsa ndi Mulungu ndikutiletsa kukhala dalitso kwa ena. (Aefeso 2:22.)
Phunziro #3: Nthawi zina ndimangofunika kukhala chete
Ndithudi, si aliyense amene amakhulupirira "uthenga wa mtanda", ndipo nthawi zina tikhoza kubwera m'mikhalidwe yomwe anthu (kaya anatanthauza kapena ayi) amatipweteka kapena amangokhala amwano. M'mikhalidwe imeneyi, nkofunika kumvetsera mosamalitsa zimene Mulungu akulankhula kwa ine.
Nthawi zina ndimadziwa kuti ndi bwino kulankhula ndi kunena zomwe ziyenera kunenedwa, kapena osachepera kufotokoza mfundo yanga ndi chifukwa chake ndikuwona kapena kumvetsetsa zinthu mosiyana. Nthawi zina m'pofunika kuima pa choonadi, ndipo nthawi zina kunena zimene ndikuganiza kuti n'kofunika chabe kuti munthu azilankhulana bwino.
Nthawi zina, ndipo izi nthawi zambiri nditafotokoza "mbali yanga" ya zinthu, ndikudziwa bwino kwambiri kuti Mulungu akundiuzadi kuti "ingokhala chete tsopano". Iye amagwira ntchito mwa ine kuti ndisakwiye ndi munthu amene sindikugwirizana naye kapena kumuweruza.
Ndikakhala ndi chidwi chogonjetsa makhalidwe anga ochimwa m'malo mofuna kuti enawo asinthe, ndiye kuti ndidzanena mokhulupirika kuti "Ayi!" ku malingaliro a kuwawidwa mtima, malingaliro aukali a chiweruzo, kapena kufuna kubwezera kapena kulanga winayo. Zimatanthauza kuti ndimangoganizira zimene Mulungu amafuna kundiphunzitsa pa vuto lililonse: Ndimaganizira kwambiri zochita mogwirizana ndi Mawu Ake ndi Chifuniro Chake.
Tchimo lililonse limayamba ndi lingaliro, choncho kuti ndichite zinthu m'njira yoyenera, ndiyenera kuonetsetsa kuti sindilola kuti maganizo alionse amene sakondweretsa Mulungu akhalebe mumtima mwanga. (2 Akorinto 10:5.) Ngati ndipitiriza kuchita zimenezi, maubwenzi anga adzakhala abwino kwambiri, ndipo ndidzakhala dalitso kwa anthu amene ndimakhala nawo.