"Kodi amandikonda? Kodi amaganiza kuti ndine wabwino pa izi kapena izo? Kodi amaganiza kuti ndimasangalala kukhala pafupi?"
Anthu ambiri anganene kuti samasamala kwambiri zimene anthu ena amaziganizira. Koma ngati tikukhala oona mtima, ambiri a ife tiyenera kuvomereza kuti timasamala ndithu. Ngati tingadziŵe kuchuluka kwa malingaliro athu tsiku lililonse amene ali ndi chochita ndi kusamalira zimene ena amaganiza ponena za ife, mwinamwake tingadabwe ndi kuchuluka kwa malingaliro amene angakhalepo.
Malingaliro amandivutitsa nthawi zonse
Malingaliro onsewa ponena za zimene anthu ena ankaganiza za ine analidi vuto kwa ine. Sindinathe kumasuka kwa iwo. Iwo anandivutitsa ndipo sakanatha kuchoka. Moyo wanga unakhala "mwamba ndi pansi" kwambiri chifukwa cha zimenezi. Nditadziwa kuti anthu amandiganizira bwino - anandiuza zinthu zabwino kapena za ine kapena kundithokoza ndi kundiuza momwe amandiyamikirira - ndikanamva bwino kwambiri. Koma, ngati anthu anandidzudzula kapena kutsutsana nane, mwadzidzidzi ndikanakhala wosasangalala kwambiri.
Ndinadziwa kuti ndiyenera kupeza njira yothetsera moyo "pamwamba ndi pansi" umenewu ndikugonjetsa maganizo amenewa mkati mwanga.
"Sindiganizira za ine ndekha."
Pakhala pali zinthu zingapo zomwe zandithandiza kwambiri m'derali. Limodzi ndi vesi la pa 1 Akorinto 7:23 (GNT),"Mulungu anakugulira mtengo; choncho musakhale akapolo a anthu."
Izi zinandipatsa chinachake chenicheni chogwiritsira ntchito motsutsana ndi malingaliro onse omwe adzabwera tsiku lonse. Nthawi iliyonse maganizo akabwera, ndinkatha kupemphera kwa Mulungu kuti, "Ndithandizeni kuti ndisakhale kapolo wa anthu!" Ndinadziŵa kuti limeneli linali pemphero mogwirizana ndi chifuniro cha Mulungu, chifukwa Iye sanafune kuti ndisonkhezeredwe kwambiri ndi malingaliro a anthu ena, makamaka popeza ndinadziŵa bwino lomwe kuti kulingalira koteroko kunadzetsa chipwirikiti ndi kupanda chimwemwe kokha.
Chinthu china chimene chinandithandiza chinali chinthu chophweka chimene nthawi ina ndinamva wina akunena. Munthu ameneyu anali pamalo amene anthu ambiri ankamuyang'ana ndipo, podziwa zimenezi, munthu wina nthawi ina anamufunsa kuti, "Kodi ukuganiza bwanji za iwe mwini?" Yankho lake linali lolunjika ndi loona mtima. Inali ndendende yankho lolondola ndipo inakhala ndi ine kuyambira pamenepo. "Sindiganizira za ine ndekha," iye anatero.
Lekani kudziganizira nokha
Sindinafunikire kudabwa kuti anatanthauzanji ndi zimenezi — ndinazimvetsetsa nthaŵi yomweyo. Palibe chifukwa chilichonse chokhalira nthawi zonse kudabwa ndi zimene anthu ena akuganiza za ine. Sindifunikira kukhala wotanganidwa ndi malingaliro onsewa omwe ali za ine ndekha. Kwenikweni palibe chifukwa choti "ndidziganizire ndekha" m'njira imeneyo ngakhale pang'ono! N'zopanda ntchito ndipo zimangoyambitsa kupsinjika maganizo, zomwe zimandipangitsa kuphonya mwayi umene Mulungu wandikonzekeretsa kuti ndim'tumikire.
Ndithudi zimatenga nkhondo koma ndizoyenera! Chisokonezo chachikulu chimatha ndikasiya kudabwa kuti anthu ena amaganiza bwanji za ine ndikusiya kudzipangitsa zonse kukhala zovuta kwambiri chifukwa cha nyumba zanga. Mwachitsanzo, kuganiza kuti "ndine wopanda pake" kungasiye pamene ndisankha kukhulupirira kuti malingaliro amenewa alibe chochita ndi mmene Mulungu amaonera zinthu ndi malingaliro amene Iye ali nawo ponena za ine. "Kudzimvera chisoni" komanso kulibe malo ndikasankha kutenga chonchi.
Kukhumudwa ndi kudziteteza chifukwa ndimatenga zinthu mwaumwini kudzasiyanso pamene malingaliro anga salinso za ine ndekha. M'malo mwake, ndikhoza kukhala wotanganitsidwa ndi kupeza ndi kuchita chifuniro cha Mulungu ndi kukhala ndi moyo kwa Iye yekha. Kudzikonda kwanga n'kodzaza kwambiri ndi ine ndekha, ndipo ayenera kukhala wamng'ono ndi wamng'ono!
Koma mbali yabwino kwambiri ndi yakuti pamene ndikusiya kudziganizira ndekha, ndimazindikira kwambiri zosowa za ena ndipo ndikutha kuona bwino momwe ndingawathandizire pazochitika zawo ndi mikhalidwe yawo. Kumene kale ndinali wodzala ndi complexes ndi kungoganiza ndekha, ndimakhala womasuka kwambiri kwa ine ndekha komanso wokhoza kukhala wothandizira ndi dalitso kwa omwe amandizungulira, chinachake chomwe ndikufunadi kukhala!