Nthawi zonse ndakhala ndikuganiza kuti ndine munthu woleza mtima. Sindimakhumudwa mosavuta kapena kukwiya ndi anthu. Koma kenako, pa nthawi ina, zinkandivuta kwambiri ndipo ndinkakwiya.
Ndinaganiza kuti, "Chabwino, pafupifupi nthawi zonse ndimakhala woleza mtima, choncho ndi bwino kukwiya kapena kukwiya ndi munthu kamodzi." Koma zoona zake n'zoona, ndinadziwa kuti sizinali bwino. Ndinkangodzikhululukira. Kuyesera kudzipangitsa kuti ndiwoneke kapena kumva ngati munthu wabwino. Chowonadi ndi chakuti mkati ine kwenikweni wodzala ndi kusaleza mtima ndi zofuna pa ena.
Kuvomereza choonadi
Pamene ndinakwiya, ena anafunikira kupirira kukhumudwa kwanga ndi mawu ovuta. M'malo mopanga mtendere pafupi nane, ndinayambitsa mavuto ndi mantha. Pambuyo pake nthawi zonse ndinkadana nazo kuti sindingathe kulamulira mkwiyo wanga, ngakhale kuti ndinkayesetsa kwambiri kusunga zonse mkati, komabe zinaphulika. Ndinamva chisoni kwambiri, chifukwa ndinkadziwa kuti si zimene ena amachita kapena kundiuza zomwe zimandipangitsa kuchita zinthu mmene ndimachitira, koma ndi mkwiyo ndi kusaleza mtima m'chikhalidwe changa chimene ndikufunika kuchigonjetsa.
Mawu a Mulungu amanena kuti "chikondi n'choleza mtima ndi chokoma mtima ... Chikondi chimavomereza moleza mtima zinthu zonse. Nthawi zonse zimakhulupirira, nthawi zonse zimayembekezera, ndipo nthawi zonse zimapirira." 1 Akorinto 13:4,7-8. Limati "nthawi zonse", choncho chikondi changa chingakhale chachikulu bwanji ngati ndikuleza mtima "nthawi zambiri" ndi anthu? Pamene ndiloŵa m'mikhalidwe ndipo ndimamva kukhala wosaleza mtima ndi anthu a kuntchito, kapena ngakhale ndi ziŵalo za banja langa ndi ana m'moyo wanga, kodi ndingavomereze zimenezo? Kapena ndikungokankhira pambali mpaka kuchuluka kwambiri ndipo ndikunena zinthu zambiri zopweteka?
Ndikayesedwa kuti ndikhale wosaleza mtima komanso wokwiya, ndimayenera kuvomereza ndekha choonadi chokhudza momwe ndiriri, ndikulimbana ndikugonjetsa mayesero amenewo m'maganizo mwanga asanakhale zochita zomwe zimapweteka anthu ozungulira ine.
Ndikayesedwa kuti ndisaleza mtima kapena kukwiya, nthawi zonse ndimaganizira za vesi la pa Yakobo 1:4 : "Kuleza mtima kwanu kudzisonyeza bwinobwino pa zimene mumachita. Mukatero mudzakhala wangwiro ndi wathunthu ndipo mudzakhala ndi zonse zimene mukufuna." Ndiyeno ndimapeza nyonga yochokera kwa Mulungu ya kugonjetsa chiyeso chimenecho ndipo m'malo mwake kukhala woleza mtima ndi wachikondi. Pali kusiyana kwakukulu pakati pa kungobisa kusaleza mtima kwanga, ndi kukhala woleza mtima ndi wachikondi!
Kusintha kuchokera ku njira yomwe ndili
Kwa ine chimenecho ndi chinthu cholimbikitsa kwambiri. Kuti ndithedi kuona kusaleza mtima kumene ndili nacho kwa ena ndi m'mikhalidwe m'moyo wanga ndi kukhala wokhoza kusintha. Kotero kuti pamene ena ali pafupi nane amatha kuzindikira chikondi ndi mtendere wokha, osati zofuna ndi ziyembekezo kuti ayenera kukhala osiyana. Kapena kuti mikhalidwe yanga iyenera kukhala yosiyana.
Ndi dalitso lalikulu kwambiri kukhala pafupi ndi anthu amene mukudziwa kuti mwadzidzidzi sadzakukwiyirani. Ndikhoza kukhala dalitso limenelo kwa anthu ozungulira ine!
Ndikudziwa ndekha kuti ndili ndi mwayi wambiri tsiku lililonse kuti ndigwire ntchito yokhala woleza mtima komanso wachikondi. Tsiku lililonse, pamene ndikugonjetsa pamene ndikuyesedwa, ndimayandikira cholinga changa, chomwe ndi kuchitapo kanthu m'chikondi changwiro kwa munthu aliyense amene ndimakumana naye m'moyo.