Nthawi yapitayo ndinawerenga vesi limene ndinali ndisanaonepo. Limafotokoza kuti anthu ena ndi "ana a chipwirikiti". Numeri 24:17 (ASV). Chipwirikiti chimatanthauza chisokonezo, kufuula kapena zipolowe. Vesi limeneli linandikhudza kwambiri. Sindinadzilingalirepo ngati munthu amene amachititsa zipolowe zambiri. Koma mwadzidzidzi zinandipangitsa kudzifunsa. Kodi mwina ndimayambitsa chisokonezo ndi chipwirikiti chifukwa cha mmene ndimachitira ndi kudzisungira m'mikhalidwe ina? Ndinazindikira kuti ndine wofanana kwambiri ndi ameneyo! Ndinali ndisanadzionepo choncho.
Yesu anati: "Odala ndi anthu odzetsa mtendere, chifukwa adzatchedwa ana a Mulungu." —Mateyu 5:9 (NIV). Nthawi zonse ndinkaganiza kuti wopanga mtendere ndi munthu yemwe samakangana kapena kumenyana ndipo angathandize anthu ena kuthetsa kusamvana kwao.- munthu wabwino yemwe samatsutsana ndi aliyense. Sichinali chinthu chimene ndinalingaliradi kwambiri. Koma zinaonekeratu kwa ine kuti kupanga mtendere n'koposa pamenepo.
Ngati ndikudandaula, kodi ndimapanga mtendere? Ngati ndili ndi nsanje, kodi ndikupanga mtendere? Ngati ndili ndi nkhawa ndi kupsinjika? Ngati ndikufuna kuti ena aone zinthu m'njira yanga? Ngati ndikulankhula zoipa za wina? Ngati ndikuchita zinthu zabwino kwambiripofuna kukondweretsaena? Ngati ndikuyang'ana pansi pa wina? Ngati ndikukhala wokamba zinthu za enaamene amasokoneza nkhani za anthu ena? Ngati ndikufuna kuti anthu andimvere? Ngati ndikuteteza chifuniro changa? Kodi ndikupanga mtendere ngati ndikuchita zoterezo?
Choyamba kupeza mtendere mwa ine ndekha
Zofuna zonse ndi kudandaula (ngakhale zitakhala m'maganizo mwanga zokha) zimachokera ku kusagwirizana kwathunthu ndi chifuniro cha Mulungu pa moyo wanga. Ngati ndinkakonda kuchita chifuniro cha Mulungu, ndiye kuti Iye akanandipatsa mtendere wangwiro. Kuti ndichite chifuniro cha Mulungu ndiyenera kusiya kotheratu chifuniro changa ndi malingaliro anga. Chiyenera kukhala chinthu chofunika kwambiri kwa ine kubwera ku mtendere, kupumula, kuchotsa zinthu zonsezi zomwe zimayambitsa zipolowe zambiri mwa ine ndekha. Ndipo chilichonse chimene ndiyenera kusiya kuti ndibwere kumeneko n'choyenera kusiya.
Paulo akutiuza mu Aroma 12:18 (NLT): "Chitani zonse zimene mungathe kuti mukhale mwamtendere ndi aliyense."
Ndinazindikira kuti kupanga mtendere kukukhudzanandi zochita zanga zonse tsiku lililonse, pamene ndili ndi chochita ndi Mulungu ndi anthu. Sindipeza mtendere mwa ine ndekha pogwiritsa ntchito maganizo anga ochenjera komanso kumvetsetsa kwanga kwaumunthu kuti ndithane ndi makhalidwe anga.
Kuti ndipeze mtendere, ndiyenera kufunafuna nzeru zomwe zimachokera kumwamba, zomwe poyamba zimakhala zoyera, kenako zamtendere. (Yakobo 3:17.) Mwa kugonjetsa zochita zanga zaumunthu, chifuniro changa, ndipo mwa kufuna kuchita chifuniro cha Mulungu, ndimapeza mtendere woyera umenewu. Zochita zanga zimakhala zoyera, zopanda uchimo wonse. Sindidzapeza mtendere umenewu kapena kulenga mtendere umenewu mwa kungodzisamalira ndekha, komanso ndithudi osati mwa kugogomezera zinthu, mwa kuda nkhawa, mwa kuchita nsanje, ndi kusakhutira.
Pamene chifuniro changa - kulingalira kwanga, zokhumba zanga "chidziwitso" changa ndi momwe ndikuwonera zinthu - zonse zaperekedwa kwa Mulungu kotero kuti ndichite chifuniro Chake ndekha, ndiye Iye adzandipatsa mphamvu ya Mzimu Woyera. Ndiyeno ndikhoza kunena kuti Ayi ku machitidwe onse ochimwa amenewo, ndipo padzakhala mzimu wa mtendere ndi kupumula ndi ine m'zonse zimene ndimachita.
Kupanga mtendere pafupi nane
Mzimu umenewo ungadalitse ndi kuthandizanso ena. Akakumana nane, amatha kuona moyo wa Khristu mwa ine osati moyo wa "ine", wodzala ndi zipolowe. Khristu ayenera kukhala mwa ine! Ndicho mfundo yonse: kuti ine (chifuniro changa ndi zofuna) kukhala zochepa ndipo Iye amakhala wamkulu mu moyo wanga. (2 Akorinto 4:10; Yohane 3:30.)
Mu Machitidwe amalembedwa za munthu yemwe dzina lake limatanthauza "mwana wa chilimbikitso". (Machitidwe 4:36.) Cholinga changa n'chakuti ndisinthe kuchoka pa kukhala "mwana wa chipwirikiti" n'kukhala "mwana wolimbikitsa" komanso mwana wa Mulungu. Ndiyeno ngodya yaing'ono ya dziko limene ndimakhala ingakhale yamtendere monga momwe zimadalira pa ine.
"Iwo ali ngati mitengo yomwe imakula pafupi ndi mtsinje, yomwe imabereka zipatso panthawi yoyenera, ndipo masamba ake samauma. Amapambana pa chilichonse chimene amachita." Salmo 1:3 (GNT).
Ngati tonsefe tikanatenga motere, kupeza mtendere wadziko lonse sikukanakhalanso vuto.