Pali zambiri zoyankhulidwa, zolembedwa ndi zoyimbidwa za chikondi, koma mwinamwake ndi nkhani yosamvetsetseka kwambiri yomwe ilipo.
Inde, tonsefe timafunafuna chikondi. Ndikofunikira kwambiri kwa munthu aliyense kufuna kumva kukondedwa, kuvomerezedwa, kumvetsetsedwa ndi kusamalidwa. Choncho, pamene tikukula pali kulakalaka kumeneku kupeza mnzathu wangwiro amene angatikonde ndi kutisangalatsa.
Koma sikuti nthawi zonse zimagwira ntchito choncho m'moyo. Ingoyang'anani mozungulira ndipo mudzawona kuti mabanja ambiri omwe adayamba m'chikondi tsopano athera mu chisudzulo kapena maukwati osakondwa. Ndi chiyani chinachitika? Zonse zinali zangwiro kwambiri pachiyambi ...
Kubweretsa Mulungu m'moyo wanu
Ndikofunika kumvetsetsa chikhalidwe chathu chaumunthu. Ndi yodzaza ndi dyera, zofuna, kudzikonda ndi ziyembekezo kuti tikhoza kufunsa funso: kodi ife kwenikweni angathe, mwa chilengedwe, kwenikweni kukonda munthu wina? Timawerenga pa Aroma 7:21 (CEB), "Choncho ndikupeza kuti, monga lamulo, pamene ndikufuna kuchita chabwino, choipa chili pomwepo ndi ine." Kodi timapeza kangati, kuti pamene tinafunadi kukonda mopanda dyera, kuti choipa, dyera, zofuna, zili pomwepo ndi ife?
Koma uthenga wabwino ndi wakuti Mulungu akabwera m'moyo wathu tikhoza kupeza mphamvu zogonjetsa chilengedwe chathu ndi kuphunzira kukonda monga momwe tikufuniradi.
Kukhala "m'chikondi" n'kwabwino tikakwatirana, koma posachedwapa tidzapeza kuti sitingathe kukonda monga momwe tikufunira pamene mayesero a tsiku ndi tsiku abwera ndipo chikondi chathu chidzayesedwa. Choncho, tiyenera kukhala ndi Mulungu monga mutu wathu ndi mbuye wathu ndipo timafunikira Mzimu Woyera kuti atiphunzitse. Paulo analembera Atesalonika m'chaputala 4:9 (NIV) kuti "... inu nokha mwaphunzitsidwa ndi Mulungu kukondana."
Tiyenera kumvetsera mawu a Mulungu ndi kumufunafuna Iye m'pemphero pamene sitingathe kukonda monga momwe tikufunira. Ndiyeno Mulungu angatiphunzitse mmene tingakondere mogwirizana ndi Mawu Ake. Tangoganizani mmene ukwati ulili pamene onse awiri ali ndi Mulungu monga mutu wawo ndipo Iye angawaphunzitse kukondana!
Malangizo omveka bwino
Mu 1 Akorinto 13:4-7 (NCV) timapeza malangizo omveka bwino a zimene chikondi chaumulungu chiri:
"Chikondi n'choleza mtima komanso chokoma mtima.
Chikondi sichichita nsanje, sichidzitama, ndipo sichinyadira.
Chikondi sichiri chamwano, sichiri chadyera, ndipo sichimakwiyira ena.
Chikondi sichiwerengera zolakwa zimene zachitika.
Chikondi sichisangalala ndi zoipa koma chimakondwera ndi choonadi.
Chikondi chimavomereza moleza mtima zinthu zonse.
Nthawi zonse zimakhulupirira, nthawi zonse zimayembekezera, ndipo nthawi zonse zimapirira."
Chikondi ndi kupereka
Ndi maphikidwe abwino chotani nanga a ukwati wachimwemwe mogwirizana ndi Mawu a Mulungu! Izi ndi zimene Iye akufuna kwa ife; m'malo mofuna kukondedwa, tingapereke chikondi kwa anthu amene timakhala nawo.
Chikondi cha Mulungu ndicho kupereka. "Mulungu anakonda kwambiri anthu a m'dzikoli moti anapereka Mwana wake yekhayo ..." limati mu Yohane 3:16 (CEV). Chimenecho ndicho chikondi chaumulungu. Kwenikweni si chikondi chimene timalandira chimene chimatisangalatsa kwambiri, koma m'malo mwake chikondi chimene timapereka. Monga yesu Mwini akunena mu Machitidwe 20:35, "Ndi wodalitsika kwambiri kupereka, kuposa kulandira!" Ukwati umene mbali zonse ziwiri zili ndi maganizo amenewa udzangoyenda bwino. Ndipo zimenezo zimapita kwa mtundu wina uliwonse wa ubale komanso.
"Chikondi chachikulu kwambiri chimene mungakhale nacho kwa anzanu ndicho kupereka moyo wanu chifukwa cha iwo," akutero Yesu pa Yohane 15:13 (GNT).
Pamene tiloŵa m'mikhalidwe yovuta m'moyo, pamenepo tingakane chifuniro chathu, kukana dyera lathu, ndipo m'malo mwake kukhala okoma mtima ndi achikondi m'malo mwake. Zimenezi si zophweka, koma mphamvu ya Mulungu imapezeka kwa onse amene amamufunafuna ndi mtima wonse. Pamenepo mikhalidwe imodzimodziyo imene imachititsa anthu ambiri kusudzulana, ingatitsogolere ku chikondi chakuya chaumulungu m'malo mwake.